After leaving a comment on Junnie’s question accompanying the latest post entitled 7-11, I am compelled to mention something on my own blog. Not to justify my comment nor to defend myself but to accept that I was or am this kind of person. Maybe if I put it out for the whole blogosphere to see, everyone can remind me of this post when, nay, IF I am in a relationship again. To make sure that I won’t do it again … perhaps. That is, of course, after I curl up into a ball and stay in a corner of my darkened room to hide from the shame that is me.
It was a great fear coming to life.
In another relationship, I was accused of being the farmer of the golden goose story. I took and took. Never giving anything in return. This time, I thought that I was very conscious of this so I tried not too demand anything that would incriminate me of the same accusation. I thought that by not asking where should the relationship go, I was giving him space. I thought that by not asking what he really felt for me was allowing him to say it in his own time. I thought … that was my downfall, I thought too much. Assumed is more likely the correct word but as for me, all my assumptions were incorrect.
[Queue Britney Spears' Ooops, I Did It Again! ...]
I gave him a hard time. I got in the way of his plans in life. I ruined his dreams. I got him off track. He did tell me several times that I was crowding him but I failed to listen.
Insensitive, that’s me. That is already very evident with the number of times the word “I” has been used in this post.
Let this be a warning to all of you about me.
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Sometimes, we tend to be insensitive, depending on circumstances. Yes, we ought to think about others before doing something but somehow it could slip away from our minds. Things happen and it’s unpredictable.
Relationships are based on giving and taking. It is not a push-pull game because both parties should be equally responsible towards each other. That is what I think and this is one of the reasons why relationships are so hard to maintain.
I’ve been giving, giving and giving; too much that I’m so tired and beginning to feel afraid to be in a relationship again. Painful, yes.
But chin up, ayt?
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Hey charlie, the first thing that’s important is that you realize something from the relationship and you come out a better person. we go by the old adage, “live and learn”…and that to me is most important of all.
Find someone who thinks you’re a queen and you won’t have any problem. You can be as selfish as you want. Just half-kidding.
I think I’m pretty selfish, but the hubs spoils me so who am I to say no
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Hope that cheered you up some.
thanks kyels, junnie and tin!
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aww, charl, don’t blame yourself. i’ve always believed that when relationships fail, it’s not anybody’s fault. it simply just wasn’t a good fit. people wanting different things, expecting different things.
hang on. love yourself, be happy with who you are. the right one will come along.
junnie is right. it takes balls to do (or say) what you did. your honesty is refreshing.
Sometimes, things just don’t work out because two people just have different personalities and priorities. It takes two to tangle, ika-nga di ba?
I also always believe things happen for a reason. That’s not to absolve us of all responsibility in our actions. But as long as we learn the lesson of its consequence, then hopefully we will get better at it. It all works out, you’ll see. It always does.
It takes guts to say what you did. It is true that sometimes people tend to be selfish take and take and not give in return, we are just mere people able to do mistakes. And in return we get to a point of realization but most of the times its too late. But still will serve us the knowledge on things that we do not know before.